Give-and-Take: Really A Recipe For Success? (I).
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A woman once visited a counselor to ask a question about her marriage. I have a funny feeling that you might not be especially impressed with the answer she was given.
All the same, I'll take my chances. I think my shoulders are broad enough.
I stand by the counselor's response 100%.
The questioner (let's call her Jane) was married to a divorcee. Her husband (John) had to pay a certain sum of money every month to his previous wife as alimony, or whatever. He had just started a new business and was passing through a financial sticky patch. The obligation to his ex-wife, on top of everything else, was putting John under a lot of pressure.
Jane was a working person and gladly helped to pay the family debts. She never thought twice about it. But could she be expected to contribute in this case?
Surely, reasoned Jane, her husband's financial commitment to somebody to whom he had been married previously had nothing to do with her? Yes, she and John were life partners and she was happy to share all his burdens. But even for what happened in a previous life, so to speak? Wasn't that going too far?
'I must confess I don't really understand your question,' the counselor gently told Jane after listening intently to her dilemma.
